Abbie Chatfield has hit out at brides who expect their guests to pay for overseas weddings and hen parties.
Speaking of her It is much podcast, the 29-year-old did not keep her strong opinions on the subject to herself.
“Am I getting screwed? I’m going to get bullied online for this. Why doesn’t the bride pay for the bachelorette party?” she raged.
“Really? When I heard that, my jaw dropped,” she said, referring to the expectation that friends pay for destination bachelor/bachelorette parties.
“The idea that you have the right to have someone else throw and pay for a party for you,” Abbie said excitedly.
‘Why? Because you’re getting married. Sad, patriarchy, sad! The leave too. The annual leave.
The former Bachelor star said her friends can’t tell brides they won’t come, or that they can’t afford it, because it creates anger.
“When people do that, do you understand the anger they go through? Everything for her! Her beautiful big day! I can’t afford 4000 f***ing dollars on d***k straws and her groom’s face on it!”
Abbie Chatfield (pictured) has hit out at brides who expect guests to pay for destination weddings and hen parties. Speaking on her podcast It’s A Lot, the 29-year-old didn’t hold back
The podcaster continued in her Instagram caption: “I honestly didn’t know that people a) had bachelorette parties AND weddings at a different location, and b) that the bridesmaids had to organize that?
“What’s going on???? I didn’t know the bride didn’t have to pay for this?? WHAT’S GOING ON?”
Abbie then asked, “Do you think people should pay for a hen party at a special location, when the bride pays NOTHING at all???”
It seems like a lot of people agreed with Abbie in her comments, with one writing: ‘Don’t even get me started on an engagement party, and me having to buy a gift for that event. What’s the point of an engagement party?!?!
“Cool, you’re getting married, I’ll see you at the wedding. Then I don’t have to dress up twice, buy presents twice, and celebrate your marriage twice.”
“The right to think you have a right to a party that everyone else is throwing and paying for,” Abbie bellowed. “Why? Because you’re getting married. Sad, patriarchy, sad!”
It seems like a lot of people agreed with Abbie in her comments, with one writing: ‘Don’t even get me started on an engagement party, and then I have to buy a gift for the event. What’s the point of an engagement party?!?!’
Another said: ‘What do you think of the tradition of bridesmaids having to pay for their own dress? I think that’s a bit over the top too. It’s YOUR wedding, YOU want me to be a bridesmaid, but I have to buy a ridiculously expensive dress that I’ll only wear once?’
‘It’s all too much now. There’s something for everything now. Engagement party, bachelorette party, bachelorette party, wedding, baby showers, gender reveal. So much money. Nothing is easy anymore,’ wrote another.
Someone else added: ‘It got so much worse when everyone started doing it for the Instagram photos instead of just having a fun night with their girlfriends!’
Yet another said: ‘I absolutely agree. I have NEVER been to a hen party that I enjoyed and I am sure everyone does these kinds of extended weekends because they feel like they have to.’
‘If you’re having a wedding offsite you’d have to downplay the events beforehand knowing everyone is paying extra for flights/accommodation etc. The idea that they would ALSO have a bachelor party offsite is just so arrogant,’ someone else wrote.
