A dating coach has revealed the five signs your relationship is over and the spark between you and your partner is gone for good.
Paige Moyce, from the south east of England, used her TikTok to help people who may be feeling lost in their relationships and wondering whether they should leave.
She said it’s “very natural” to have conflict about this decision because you can love your partner but still feel like things may never work out between the two of you.
Paige said that the first sign that your relationship is over is that you stay for a whole list of reasons, but your happiness isn’t one of them.
“Maybe you stay for the kids, maybe you stay because you’re afraid of being alone or because you don’t want them with someone else,” she said.
“Maybe you stay because you’re afraid of what it would be like to leave, or because you don’t want to hurt that person.”
Whatever the reason, your own happiness doesn’t appear at the top of the list, or even on it at all.
The second sign is when communication turns into conflict. Even if you watch your tone or choose the “right time” to talk, it seems to end up in an argument.
She said, “All this does is drive a bigger and bigger wedge between you and this person. If our needs aren’t met, how long will this relationship last?’
Paige added that loneliness is another indicator that the relationship is doomed, saying that people can actually feel lonelier in a relationship than outside of it.
Paige Moyce, from the south of England, used her TikTok to help people who may be feeling lost in their relationships and wondering whether they should leave
She added, “Just because we’re with someone physically doesn’t mean we’re with someone emotionally. If you’re honest, when was the last time you felt special in this relationship? When was the last time you felt appreciated?’
The fourth sign that your relationship is over is that you have lost your sense of individuality because you put your partner first.
“You’ve put this person in front of you so many times that now it’s normal to do that, but now you don’t know what you want,” she said.
‘Because you have prioritized the other person, you now wonder what you want, which can make you feel overwhelmed.
Finally, Paige said that if you were given a wand with the option to leave, you would take the opportunity.
She said: ‘If anyone could guarantee that you would get through it, that it wouldn’t be hell, that you would be happy again, that you would meet someone new and be confident again, then you would take it.’
The video received almost 20,000 likes, with TikTok users sharing their thoughts on the clip.
The video received almost 20,000 likes, with TikTok users sharing their thoughts on the clip
One wrote: ‘I broke up with him because I thought I was an adult but he is my home and my rock and I love him too much I don’t know why I did this.’
Another wrote: ‘I have completely lost attraction to him because my needs have not been met for so many years. He is a good person and is trying now, but so afraid that it is too late. It’s been months.”
A third wrote: ‘Thanks for this video. I’ve been thinking about my thoughts for months, but with this video I’ve put my thoughts together.’
A fourth commented: ‘I just got out of a nine year relationship for some of these reasons. This video has given me enormous validation, so thank you.’
